How to overcome Selfishness


Selfishness or self-centeredness is engraved deep in the heart of every human being.

 Some of us have been able to cut down self-centredness to a certain level while some have it to a very large degree.

 Self-centeredness is actually putting your needs and concerns of yourself before the needs of others.

 The reason for the lying, cheating, or killings that we are experiencing is deep-rooted in self-centeredness.

 The cure for it starts from the heart because everything originates from the heart.

 Remember, Jesus said that out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks, so everything starts from the heart.

 And the only way to cure self-centeredness is to change from the inside and that change from the inside is only possible through the power of the Holy Spirit.

 And that is what Jesus came to show us how to do.

 So we are going to look at four different ways that we can overcome self-centeredness by looking at the life of Jesus Christ who is our perfect example.

1.  We must agree with each other and love one another.

 You must learn to agree with other people’s views,  see things from their own point of view or from their own perspective, and show genuine love to people because true love cares for the needs of other people.

2. Don’t push your way to the front or sweet-talk your way to the top.

 Everyone wants to get noticed, everyone is struggling to be seen.  And as a result,  they say things that are false or have truth to get their way to the top.  And this can be seen in the areas of seeking promotion, making more money, or in every other daily activity that we engage in. So we must learn to put ourselves aside so that we don’t bring other people down.

This is also seen mostly in a work environment, some people will go ahead and pass false information to their bosses or to their leaders or their managers in order to bring their fellow colleagues down. But the question you need to ask yourself is this, if I succeed in getting this person out of the way in the office will I earn his or her salary?

3.  Forget yourself long enough to lend a helping hand.

 You may be thinking that you have the greatest problem in the world but until you hear other people’s stories, you will have a rethink.

 We must keep our problems aside and see how to help someone lacking in the area we have already succeeded, that is the right way to live because many people are facing challenges or difficulties in the area in which you have already overcome, to them, those are difficult issues in their life but to you, it is so elementary that you think it doesn’t mean anything.

 And in helping other people solve their problems, you will find out that you are actually solving your own problem indirectly, it may not be obvious immediately, but later on, you will understand that it is at the point of solving a problem for the other person you will be able to solve your own problem.

4.  Think about the way Jesus taught.

How did he think that is a great question?  How did Jesus think or how is he thinking? The Bible made us understand that even though Jesus has equal status with God, yet He belittled himself he became an ordinary man. He served many people, helped many people, prayed for many people healed many people, and worst of all, He died a selfless obedient death.

He humbled himself and came down to the level of a normal human being and that is the only way he was able to help humanity so that is what we need to do. We must also learn to humble ourselves, come down to the level of others no matter our status, and then put ourselves in other people should see what they feel and experience they are problems.

In conclusion,  when we do all these four things that are listed above, will begin to see that the roots of self-centeredness or selfishness will gradually die off completely and like the way Jesus was honored by God because He humbled himself, the same way God will honor us when we humble ourselves in order to help other people achieve success in life.

Today, make it a point of duty that you are going to kill the root of self-centeredness from your life by asking God to help you through the power of the Holy Spirit to overcome every spirit of selfishness or self-centeredness that is still operating in your life, and when you do this God will be so glad and you will experience a new type of peace.

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Okey Chigbu

Okey Chigbu is a Digital Media Consultant. He helps business owners grow and scale their business online using digital solutions at his agency Donal Digital. He is also passionate about helping people become a better person through his letters here, his Youtube Videos and Podcast. He loves solving problems.

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